We’re told that it’s compassionate to forgive ourselves and other people.
It’s a great principle, sorely lacking in detail.
When, for example, is the time to forgive? And how do we do it?
By rushing to forgive we risk pushing legitimate feelings underground. On the other hand refusing to forgive is a lost opportunity for deeper connection and means that we carry unnecessary pain.
People react along the continuum of fast to slow depending on who they are and the situation, some things have a greater impact than others.
But at the extremes are:
- Those who never forgive.
- Those who forgive instantaneously.