I heard a woman who doesn’t work but overtly disparages friends who aren’t able to participate in her luxurious designer-clothing-five-star-travel-restaurant lifestyle say that she was not materialistic.
Now there’s nothing wrong with enjoying material things but there’s clearly a gap here between what’s expressed and lived.
And the examples are everywhere.
A friend worked with an executive who touted himself as a mentor until it was later revealed that he set about coming on to menses and sabotaging those who refused his advances.
Spot the difference? It’s only in the details.
What these examples have in common is that they point to a gap between who people say they are and what they, in fact, do.
But it’s the latter that counts (with a caveat around intention).