We are as we think
We’re told we are as we think.
Perception can have a dramatic impact on wellbeing but the reality is far more complex.
We are as we are treated
Mostly we believe we are as we are treated.
When we’re treated well, we presume that who we are and what we do is okay and can withstand a bit of ebb and flow.
But when we’re treated badly we worry that we caused it, deserve it or even worse – are fundamentally bad.
This is particularly true for those who are mistreated young and do not understand that adults are flawed.
Abusers know this intuitively and depend on it.