What I have learned is that there are different types of respect.
The problem is that in English, we only have one word for it.
That means we grow up thinking respect is a single and exclusionary thing:
- Either you respect someone, or you don’t.
- Either you are respected, or you aren’t.
In reality, it’s a lot more complex.
This type of thinking leads to a lot of ‘I am better than you’, insider/outsider behaviour:
- You’re one of us.
- If you’re not with us, you’re against us.
- You don’t share my values.
And so on.
There are different degrees and types of trust